This was written prior to my starting the blog…
Feb.28, 2010
Yesterday, he went with me to pick up Austyn from church. He wanted to get more beer. We had to wait for a few minutes, class doors were locked, etc. while waiting, he scanned through his phone contacts, a couple of times, quickly, so I would not hear the names. He finally called. He got a voicemail, in which I could hear a woman’s voice…listened to the entire message, hung up, and muttered…Hummmm…. After a minute…I asked, (b/c he said humm), who are you trying to call? He snaps, “A friend”….I replied, “you don’t have to get all defensive, I was just asking”….so then curiosity piqued, I ask what friend? I am not in a probing state of mind, yet curious, woman’s voice, snappy reply, defense mode, he replied, “just a friend, in Indy…what’s the big deal! You get upset with me when I ask you, (no…I get upset when he interrupts me when I’m ON THE PHONE)” I said, “ geez, calm down, no big deal, I was just asking, it’s quiet in the truck, conversation is what I seek, not an argument.” He wanted me to leave church w/out Austyn to go to town and come back…I refused as it was not right, he became agitated. He then told me this friend’s name… never heard of him before, he stated I don’t know him, he was a truck driver, and his whole demeanor was aggressive and defensive.
After I got out of the truck, he called the number again, for 1 minute, according to call log….
My point in all this is: I do not provoke or instigate these responses or behaviors from him, so wth is his reasoning? I can certainly say that call was made because I was right there, as if a manipulation of some sort. Normally if he wishes to ring someone, he does so in private. I would think especially if it was someone I did not know of, he would have made that call in private, so I reason his actions were somehow because I was there. Nor did my interaction with him warrant his snippy, crude response. It’s as if he creates scenarios so he then has an excuse for his nasty, vile behavior. His abuse.
